My youngest son has an Under Armour shirt with a big shamrock on it that proclaims: “I’m not lucky, I’m good.” I absolutely love that shirt. I love the message it sends to others letting them know he is capable and confident and a force to be reckoned with. I also love the lesson it teaches him: good outcomes in life are a direct result of hard work and effort, not some divine providence or external good fortune.
So, I thought I’d reiterate that sentiment with today’s quote:
With St. Patrick’s Day Rather right around the corner it seems there is a lot of talk about being lucky, getting lucky, looking for luck, wishing for luck and waiting for luck to turn. I think this is all a bunch of nonsense, not to mention a waste of time.
So often, when we refer to someone else as “lucky” we are engaging in the soul-sucking, happiness-zapping process of comparison. They’ve got something we want, and so because comparing ourselves to them and envying what they have makes us feel bad, we begin attributing their successes to luck. This comparison habit is especially bad in the age of social media where carefully curated lives are put on display for all to see. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – comparison is thief of joy. First of all, the life someone appears to live and the life they actually live are often two very different things. So, when we base our perceptions off of social media we are missing a lot of the picture. But even more important than that, judging yourself relative to others is pointless. The only person that matters is you. You have no control over anyone else, and no-one else’s success is impeding your own.
If you do honestly want to better your lot in life – whether that’s getting healthier, paying down debt, getting a new job, becoming more adventurous, spending more time on the things that matter most – then stop wishing for luck and start doing something about. So many of the people we perceive as lucky have invested enormous amounts of time, energy and tears into building the life they have today. To credit their current success on luck is both insulting to them, and disempowering to you.
You have the power to control your own destiny. You don’t need luck, you just need desire, dedication and follow through. It’s amazing how much luckier you’ll find yourself when you commit to working hard and going after your dreams.