So often we (okay, I) get into a funk on Sunday evenings. I find myself feeling overwhelmed at all the things I still have left to do to prepare for the week and also feeling guilty for all the fun things I didn’t do on the weekend. I start counting the number of breakfasts and lunches and dinners I have to make for the week and maybe even begin to hyperventilate a little when I glance at our calendar of activities. I get cranky and short-tempered and impatient and antsy about bedtime. And I know I am not alone. Many people experience this sense of unease on Sundays. There’s even a term for this emotional state – the Sunday Blues – and countless articles devoted to ways to combat the depressed feeling many of us feel on Sunday nights, or even worse, wake up with on Sunday mornings. I literally just realized what an absolute waste of the weekend it is to spend half of it dreading the next day!
And, if Sunday nights are bad, Monday mornings are even worse. It seems the alarm clock always goes off too early, and I’ve always forgotten to do something the night before and we are all rushing around trying to get out the door on time. Maybe your Monday mornings are slow and leisurely and calm, and I am the only one who feels stressed out. But I doubt that. There is a reason the song Manic Monday was so popular. (Yes, I know, dating myself again). From the many years I spent working in offices and the countless Monday memes that take over my Facebook feed, I know that many of us dread the start of the work/school week and slog through the day in half-awake haze, often just wishing it to be over so we can move on to Tuesday already.
But if you stop and think about it for a second, that’s just plain CRAZY!! I mean, every time we wish away a Monday, we are wishing away 1/7th of our one and only precious (and way too short) life. I wish I could go back and teach my younger yourself to stop dreaming so much about the future, stop waiting to be older, stop thinking that life would just be better when I . . . [fill in the blank] because I fear I spent so much time waiting for the future to begin that I missed out on living in the present. So, while I can’t go back in time and change the way I lived before, I can take that lesson to heart today and change my behavior from this day forward. I know that each day, including Monday, is a gift, and as such should be enjoyed and celebrated and appreciated.
So, rather than alleviating the Sunday Blues by focusing on ways to make Sunday more fun as all the articles preach (although I have nothing against Sunday Fundays), I am proposing a major mindset shift about Mondays. Instead of dreading Mondays, fearing Mondays and thinking of Mondays as something we “have to get through”, why not embrace Mondays as a fresh start, a new beginning, a blank calendar with all the time in the world to do marvelous things. Let’s make Mondays Magnificent!
I know this mindset shift will happen overnight, but with a little effort and conscious attitude adjustment we can come to make the most dreaded day of the week a much more positive event. And we might as well, because enduring the recurring trauma of an impending Monday week after week after week is no way to live.
So, let’s stop lamenting the start of new long week, and rather view Monday as the beginning of a whole new week, five long days, to accomplish great things. Try putting some of your favorite activities on your Monday calendar, and saving the things you truly hate to do for Tuesday or Wednesday. Develop a Monday ritual – whether it be taking a tea break, going to gym at lunch or phoning a friend. Maybe you could designate Monday as the day you work on a new or favorite hobby. Tell yourself you LOVE Mondays and soon you just might start believing it. You know what they say – fake it ’til you feel it.
Oh. and one last tip – stop hitting the snooze button. Perhaps, even set your alarm fifteen minutes earlier and then use that time to journal, read, stretch, meditate or just sit in silence (yes, it’s okay to scroll through your IG feed too, but make sure you set the timer on your phone so that you don’t get stuck in the black hole social media, because the idea of waking up earlier is to start your Monday with peace and calm rather than racing around at the last minute). If you set your alarm 15 minutes earlier every Monday for the entire year you would have an extra 13 hours at the end of the year. Think of all the magnificent things you could with that time.
And once you stop dreading Mondays, Sunday will become so much more enjoyable too!